Be Her: 5 Tips For Boldness
Listen, I would be so embarrassed if God played a projector of what goes on in my mind. You have no idea the music videos, movies, crowd-pleasing speeches and Grammy wins I’ve acquired in my imagination. *(Note that I have no musical ability for the Grammy. Although I sang alto in the general school choir.)
Then… there was her.
That girl was bold, excited, lived life, was gentle, kind but business savvy. She would cut you with quickness without using a cuss word… only when necessary, I promise.
Truth is, I longed to be her. The mature version of me. At 34, I feel there’s still so much of her I need to accomplish, the great woman I see myself as. Then God showed me, you are her. She is you.
Cue imposter syndrome in 3…2…1! It was hard to comprehend but I did my best to sit with the idea. That girl I saw myself as was nothing like how I showed up. Because let’s be real, perception is reality.
Yes, God designed me as a mature, confident, powerhouse, but how? The truth is all of that was already in me. As I prayed and looked myself in the mirror God showed me it was all about continuing to reveal who I really am. I didn’t have to overwork myself to become something I wasn’t. I just had to finally believe it.
How do you connect the dots between who you are and actually showing up as that girl? This is what I’ve learned:
1. Expect more: she sees her reality, but she knows her Heavenly Father even more. Keep your eyes locked on the promise.
2. Do it: She moves with no hesitation. Start acting on your dreams and goals. Confront your fears head on. Even when you feel afraid. The more practice you have of doing what you know despite that shaky feeling the better you get at stepping into what the devil wants to hold you back from.
3. Find your voice: She is accepted because she embraces her uniqueness. When you accept the voice you have, others see the value in it too.
4. Trust God: God called, and His track record says He knows what He’s doing. She knows this and now It’s time for you to trust the process too.
5. Own it: you are her. She is you. It’s yours. It’s time to embrace who you are. Victory is already in your lap.
As I surrender and allow God to work in me it’s simply peeling back the lies to reveal that girl that’s there. When I live life, she peaks through. When I rest in my identity, she comes alive.
I am her. She is you. It comes down to this simple fact: believing what God says about you. The more we learn and believe what He says about us as His children, the more that we just are. There’s nothing we work toward. There’s no performance. There’s no pride and ego. It simply becomes us. Remember that no one can keep you from who you already are but you.
