Single Series: Heart to Heart
Welcome to the first blog for the Single Series!!
Let me start off with transparent honesty: I have been single for a loooooong time!
I was excited to do a single series when God placed it on my heart, but then I got confused. There are so many different ways, areas, topics and discussions to have on the basis of singlehood. I didn’t know where to start. (I tend to do that. I get overwhelmed in the excitement of my thoughts and gems that God drops on me).
There’s a lot out there that is geared to Christian single women. Just remember you are not single for one blanket reason. There’s nothing you have to do to “earn” a husband. Will God put people in your path to teach you about love, loyalty, commitment? Sure! For me, I honestly have to talk reason to my own self during this time of my life.
I fear a lot when it comes to relationships. I’m a hopeless romantic, but I also fear being hurt. There goes my guard! And sometimes, I’m probably a bit judgmental too.
So, I learn, I grow, I adjust. Not to get a husband, but because I feel led by God.
I’m not really sure what to expect now in this series. I’m in the same boat for crying out loud! But I believe we should start with laying down our fears and…our expectations.
Fear is obvious to most of you. You can’t truly receive love if you’re fearful it will run away. Love is fearless. It lives in the moment, for the moment. It’s completely vulnerable unto tomorrow. But our expectations? I
don’t mean your standards and morals. I mean that part that says he needs to look and act a certain way. The expectation that it should feel a certain way. That you expect this aura to be over him and a dove flying to confirm he’s “the one”. Everyone’s story is different. Some more dramatic than others, yet most just everyday coincidences that bumped into one another.
I believe God is asking us to be present. Just like we laid down our old life to begin something new in the image of Him, we need to lay down our perspectives to receive a covenant created in love and full of purpose. God wants you to have what you desire but, in His way and in His time. Do you trust that?
Keep in mind that marriage is just a piece. Your Heavenly Father cares about you, do you care about where He is in the process? So, let’s lay it all down. And know that this season is one full of victory, just like any other.
Single ladies: what have you been fearing about your future husband/relationship/marriage? Drop a comment on what you are going to let go of in this season? And what’s something you can do for yourself that maybe you’ve been putting off? Let’s pray for one another.
XOXO,
Felicia Morgan