Get Back to Her

What do I do? How do I get there? What am I even doing? What is the point?

I put my hands to my head as the frustration was now brewing. This is not where I imagined my life to be at this stage. How did I lose sight of that girl, how did I lose track of me.

Ladies, we tend to easily put others before ourselves. This is a fact that we know and yet we continue to do. We want to help, be supportive, be there. We want people to know we aren’t selfish. So, we put ourselves on the backburner, sidetrack our dreams all in exchange for… acceptance, love, validation… something! But at some point, something’s got to give if we are going to have anything left to give.

It’s time to pay attention to that girl you are. The girl inside and the one screaming for help that was silenced by others. You hear her and it’s time to service her.

Reflect:

Where did we go wrong? What’s the insecure thing lingering around that makes you put yourself last. It’s time to dig that up so we can uproot it and say our final goodbyes. It’s not going to serve you at all in your next season. Matter of fact, it has NOT been serving you PERIOD. Not only do you need to reflect on what went wrong, but what did you leave behind? Was it a dream, a goal, your career, your family, your real friends. It’s time to get back to the thing that makes YOU tick. What is your passion, your dream, hobby? Stop worrying about what they think and remember what made you filled with happiness in the first place.

Heal:

This can take time. it’s not going to be overnight no matter how hard you pray for it to. This is part of the journey and the quicker you make amends with that, the easier it will be to face it. It’s time to face your fears, your struggles. It’s ok to grieve that girl too. That’s all part of the process. And know that where you attempted to fill yourself with temporary things before, God is now here to fill you for good. Take your healing journey, and if that means getting therapy too, well then you do that.

Reset:

Now that we got the healing on a roll and we know where we went wrong, it’s time to put some action into it. Those dreams, goals, and things you left behind, devise a plan now to get back to those things. Even if it looks different. Maybe you can’t play the sport, but you can be a part of the team in some way. Maybe you’ve reached the age past childbearing, but you can volunteer in the community to be a positive mentor. Don’t just think about what could have been, what can you do today to get you to where you really desire to be?

That girl that is in you is important.

God said that she is a masterpiece that He created. He loves you unconditionally and there’s nothing too hard for Him to achieve. Life may not have gone your way. But now that you know exactly where you are, it’s time to get back on track for the bigger picture.